ACHOS along with her sisters were know as ‘The Pains’ as they each personified aspects of suffering of both the mind and body. She was the Greek Goddess of GRIEF who brought with her the flowing of tears and lamentation. She witnesses the the wounds of the loss of our loved ones and walks beside us as we enter the darkness of the MOURNING process where healing begins. Grief takes many forms and endures varied lengths of time…it cannot be rushed. Eventually the process leads us from the Underworld back into the everyday world. Our grief can then be transformed into deep loving memories that are held within us forever.
The psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross the author of the groundbreaking book ‘On death and dying ‘(1969) discussed her theory of the five stages of grief, which may not be linear in how they present: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. As mortals we all experience the death & loss that leads to periods of grieving in our lives. Such times include many forms of personal loss; illness, the end of relationships, the loss of a job, separations, infertility or the loss of a loved one.
“I thought: Maybe death isn’t darkness, after all, but so much light wrapping itself around us— As soft as feathers— that we are instantly weary of looking, and looking, and shut our eyes, not without amazement, and let ourselves be carried, as through the translucence of mica, to the river that is without the least dapple or shadow— that is nothing but light—scalding, aortal light— in which we are washed and washed out of our bones…..Mary Oliver